👑 Dating a Muslim man: Myths Debunked

Oct 27, 2021

It’s a match! You’ve finally found your ideal partner on a dating site like Fuckbook or MenNation. Interracial and interfaith dating is getting progressively more common around the world. Accordingly, singles are bound to cross racial lines looking for their perfect partner. And just like any other culture, dating a man of Muslim heritage comes with its own set of traditions and standards. Given the mostly negative media portrayal of Muslim men, it should come as no surprise that the general public has a poor opinion of them. 

And that’s what IC is here for! To fight the false narrative and set you up on a very fulfilling path of feeling at liberty to fuck, date, or even marry anyone you’d like. Down with the patriarchy and bigotry!

So, most of us already know that people’s stereotypes about men of Muslim heritage aren’t always true! There are a couple of factors and aspects to consider while dating outside of your race or religion. However, once you understand them, you’ll be well headed to meeting wonderful individuals from varying backgrounds. The right man of Muslim heritage can be a sweet and caring partner on the outside, but also a great lover on the inside. Be aware that Muslim men are usually very interested in serious relationships that lead to marriage (most often, unfortunately, not gay marriage), so heterosexual flings and casual hookups are mostly not in their vocabulary. Things, as we know, change when we talk about gay experiences, because they tend to have flings and hookups with gay men.

However, if you’ve landed a man of Muslim heritage or plan to go down that path and don’t know what to expect, we’ll certainly try to guide you with that. Read through this piece and learn all the things you need to know when dating a man of Muslim heritage.


What You Need to Know About Dating A Muslim Man

A person’s perspective on life is often affected by their upbringing. Since you and your partner most likely have opposing beliefs, this may lead to certain struggles. Factors such as relationship expectations, love, and respect that are seen as you grow up all play a role in the relationships you form as an adult. It would help if you learned about your partner’s culture to minimize interpersonal differences. 

Myth: Muslim men don’t like to show off

Reality: They like to display their power, especially in front of their family, partner, and partner’s family. If a Tunisian man sees his partner carrying heavy items, he will not hesitate to demonstrate his strength and help his partner.

Likewise, if you tell a Muslim man he can’t do something, he’ll just show you that you’re wrong and do it for you. When dating a Muslim man, he appreciates it when you acknowledge and praise his efforts.

Myth: Muslim men only speak Arabic

Reality: Men of Muslim heritage come in all skin colors and cultural backgrounds tied to their languages. They can speak multiple languages. The most common language that comes to mind is Arabic, but you might be surprised by the fact that Muslim men from non-Arab countries don’t or can barely speak any Arabic.

Because of the improvement in education, French and English are now often used in the press, education, and government, and have started to play a significant role. In some countries the Italian language, to a minor extent, is also used in education or media.

Of foreign languages, Muslim men can generally communicate in French or English because it is often required of them in school to learn at least one foreign language.


Myth: They are not big fans of food

Reality: When dating a Muslim man, know that they have a hearty appetite and love food very much! And they especially love partners who can cook too. In Muslim countries, it is customary for women to prepare meals for their families, so Muslim men will expect you to take over the “wife” role and be able to cook, as his love for food is equal to his love for you.

The cuisine of Muslim heritage is incredibly tasty. It’s a delicious mix of Mediterranean and Asian influences. If you plan on learning your partner’s cuisine, it’s better to take a few cooking classes and be well prepared!

Myth: They don’t take the lead in a relationship

Reality: When dating a Muslim man, understand that it’s in their culture to be the alpha in the relationship. In the family, men should take the lead and be responsible. It’s one of a few things that most Muslim countries and cultures have in common. It is a grave mistake in Muslim culture for a man not to take the lead at all. It implies that they have abdicated all decision-making responsibilities. It’s a vulnerable place to be in, and it demonstrates a serious lack of confidence.

If the man in the relationship does not take the lead, the other partner would be required to do so. And the lack of leadership would probably sooner or later contribute to the breakup of the relationship.

Myth: Muslim men don’t have hobbies

Reality: When you’re dating a Muslim man, you might as well be cheering for his sports team! Muslim men, as most men, are crazy about sports and increasingly so – football. So when it’s the peak season for football, it’s best to watch and support your man’s football teams and enjoy it with some beverages and food.

Aside from football, Muslim men are also increasingly interested in handball, especially the North African and Mediterranean men of Muslim heritage.

Learning a few significant things about your man’s teams winning in local and international leagues will make your man fall for you even more! Nothing’s better than having a significant other who is also knowledgeable about his favorite sports.

Myth: You can keep your gay friends while dating a Muslim man

Reality: Muslim men are very jealous and protective. Most Muslim men find it difficult to consider their potential partner’s involvement in others and experiences with them. Jealousy arises from two sources: the fear of losing the person they love to somebody else and a partner’s intuition. Jealousy stems from affection, and it can be both sweet and good.

If your partner is Muslim, he will act as a street bodyguard for you. He will always want to defend you and will go to great lengths to demonstrate to everyone that you are his. The majority of Muslim men are envious of other men and dislike it when they hear other men speak to their partners, especially if the men are on the more masculine side. If you’re walking down the street and come across another man, expect your Muslim man to take the side where the other man is walking.

Men of Muslim heritage are also known to be protective, so when you cross the street, except that he will walk on the side where the car is coming from, so he can protect you.

Myth: Muslim men don’t care about their families

Reality: When dating a Muslim man, you must know that they are very close with their families. Families in mostly Muslim countries are typically patriarchal, conservative, and close-knit. The family is the most important element in Muslim culture, and it plays a significant role in all social interactions.

The majority of households are based on the nuclear family culture, in which roles are allocated based on age, sex, and specific attributes. However, changes in education and careers have influenced this situation. So when you’re with your Muslim man, you might expect to be involved with his family a lot, or even worse – in case they aren’t gay friendly – be set on the sidelines, because the blood family always comes first.

Myth: They don’t mind being disrespected

Reality: Muslim men don’t like or tolerate disrespect. Don’t even think to be on his wrong side because it will turn out badly. And it’s not just about disrespecting him – if you disrespect his family, his culture, and his country, your relationship will most likely fall apart. Accepting cultural differences is very important, especially when trying new things such as interracial dating.

Myth: Muslim men are always rude

Reality: When dating a Muslim man, know that they will always give his best to respect you, his loved ones, and all other people in general. If you’re meeting with a Muslim man for the first time, they will act almost shy in front of you and will not do anything to offend or scare you off. 

Respect begins with being kind and courteous, and Muslim men practice these traits in their everyday lives, not only in relationships. Aside from that, they must pay close attention to you, especially when you’re talking, so that they could learn more about you.

Myth: Muslim men are discourteous

Reality: Muslim men are notable for being a gentleman especially to their partners. When you’re dating a Muslim man, he will treat you and will try to pay for everything. They will never accept if their partner will pay for something for them. It’s in their culture to provide for their families, so being a gentleman to their partner is a tradition. 


Muslim culture is a mix of progressive and conservative traditions. The vast majority of the population is still traditional, and because of that, the “haram” acts, such as leading a gay lifestyle, are frowned upon. Dating a Muslim man may be a lot different from any other Western culture. Still, if you learn to accept and respect your differences, you certainly can have a happy relationship.


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